A little dialog-ical story for your enjoyment:
Him:
Did you say text the chick tonight or wait till Saturday?
Me:
You could do either, just keep it light
Him:
I’m gonna text her in the afternoon:
“what kind of trouble you getting into tonight”
How’s that?
Me:
Yep!
Him:
Wait wouldn’t it be weird if I asked that because she bartends tonight? So should i say weekend instead?
Me:
Yeah if she works tonight, you should wait til a day shes not working to say that. or say something on Friday about the weekend, like ask her to coffee or something like that.
Him:
I hate coffee.
Me:
Well you don’t have to get coffee…get tea! Just take her somewhere that it could turn into more, like around Chelsea market, and then there’s tons to do around there after. But keep it casual.
And, I’m just saying , ideally…this is what I would want for like a first date…there’s less pressure with coffee/tea, than dinner or drinks. You know?
Him:
Haha I know I’m just playing. We’ll see what happens.
(Offtopic) so what are your thoughts about:
“dating friend’s ex” (friends can be like for example: Jim looks like he’s pretty tight with you, imagine him as a girl and “she” went out with a dude. What are your thoughts about dating that dude after him)
Vs
“dating acquaintances ex?” (acquaintance is like John…now change it to the same scenario as above)
Me:
If you like seconds…
I don’t really go in either direction unless I absolutely have no control over myself and that person can’t help it either. I think there are a ton of “untouched” options that don’t burn any bridges.
Him:
Well a person I know is dating my ex, I’m not sure what to make of it.
I feel kind of insulted because she “downgraded?” I mean if she went out with a dude that looks like brad pitt that would be great. I would be like damn she’s good and I’m kinda glad I got to go out with her first, but the dude actually isn’t all that. I know him by face only and I don’t even know his last name.
And my theory is:
8.4 million people live in NY
4.2 million are of the opposite sex
2.1 million of them are not in relationships
1.05 million of them is in your “age bracket” for dating.
503,000 are interested in same sex, or not looking for a relationship
250,000 are “potential dates”
175,000 of those potential dates will give you a date
85,000 of those dates will be connected to someone you know one way or another
40,000 of the passable dates will end in epic failure
So that leaves a sum of 20,000 dates that is untouched.
Still a pretty good ball park figure for NY eh? Haha
Me:
Did you really do all that research or you making up shit? Lol
And yes, there are PLENTY of untouched, available people. Except if you factor in the fact that the ratio of women to men in NYC is 4 to 1 and 1 in 3 people have an STD, that brings your number down to about 1,600 “untouched” people. Still good for you…switch that around to us girls and were down to a tiny 66 available, straight, willing to date us and without a STD. In other words, I should just move to a convent.
But, in other news…she’s a douche for dating someone that has any ties to you. But, most men don’t care…maybe that’s what she’s thinking…?
I mean, I’m not into all that…what is it guys say to other guys who get their seconds “how does my dick taste??” lol. gross.
Him:
I have a vast imagination, just made it up hahah. Pretty good right?
I have nothing against it. Everything happens for a reason right? I never thought about it the way you did though, and that’s only if the dude is down to eat out of the garden. Actually I can guarantee that 80% of dudes don’t care about sloppy seconds as long as there’s a serving haha.
